Bringing home a new baby can be overwhelming for parents and in particular for dads, who are unsure of how to care for their new child and how to best support their partner.
Most are sure they want to bond, and to help, but are unsure of exactly how. They can be nervous about doing something wrong. Here are some tips on how to best support your amazing wife as you both transition to parenthood.
Your partner has gone through a lot – she has grown a baby and given birth to that baby and her body needs time to heal.
Regular baths filled with healing herbs are a necessity for a new mom. Draw her a bath, help her in and then close the door while you tend to babe. Quiet, healing rest is crucial and so appreciated.
Something as simple as getting in and out of bed can be incredibly difficult for a new mom. Her abdominal muscles that offer support to her spine and help her move are stretched and weak, and her pelvic floor that supports her spine, pelvis and internal organs has been through a lot.
Her core is compromised and needs to heal but every time she moves, her core is called upon. Instead of her doing all the work, use your muscles to help her in and out of bed or the bath or up from the chair. Make it as easy as possible for her so her core can recover.
You will be beaming with pride for your newborn but remember the mother of your child as well. Tell her how proud you are of her, how much you love her and how amazing she is.
Women are hard on themselves and at a time when they have demonstrated incredible strength they can feel at their weakest. By feeling honoured and appreciated by you, her spirits will be lifted and she will better find strength in herself.
Your wife will be in a hurry to do things herself, or get back into her skinny jeans, or return to the gym. You play a key role in making sure she slows down and embraces the new life you have created.
Encourage her to rest as much as possible, ensure she does not go to bootcamp at six weeks, and remind her that she has just accomplished an amazing feat and there is no need to rush.
The best thing a new dad can do for his new family is offer appreciative support to his partner by just being there and letting her know that you care. A new baby is a time to come together as a family, to allow mom to heal, and for all to bond together in this amazing new journey.