Bringing home a new baby can be overwhelming for parents and in particular for dads, who are unsure of how to care for their new child and how to best support their partner.
Most are sure they want to bond, and to help, but are unsure of exactly how. They can be nervous about doing something wrong. Here are some tips on how to best support your amazing wife as you both transition to parenthood.
Your partner has gone through a lot – she has grown a baby and given birth to that baby and her body needs time to heal.
Regular baths filled with healing herbs are a necessity for a new mom. Draw her a bath, help her in and then close the door while you tend to babe. Quiet, healing rest is crucial and so appreciated.
Something as simple as getting in and out of bed can be incredibly difficult for a new mom. Her abdominal muscles that offer support to her spine and help her move are stretched...
Everyone knows the benefits of exercise. Pregnancy is a time when exercise is key, not only for mom but for the benefit of babe too!
An exercise physiologist named Linda May looked at the benefits of exercise on the fetuses of 66 pregnant women. She and her partners collected non-invasive fetal heart measurements at 28, 32 and 36 weeks of gestation.
The exercise group participated in moderate to vigorous exercise at least three times a week while the other group did not exercise. The team noticed changes in heart rate response in the fetuses of the exercising moms starting at 32 weeks and by 36 weeks they noticed lower heart rates and increased heart rate variability (an indicator of a heart functioning more efficiently and a measure typically associated with exercisers).
There is a principle in fitness called the specificity principle. It states...
Pfilates (no, that is not a typo) is a great program to help train your pelvic floor. When you add in core breathing, you have a fantastic way to improve and maintain a stronger pelvic floor for life.
We want our pelvic floor to be functional during times of rest and during movement; the beauty of the Pfilates program is that it does just that, it blends kegels with movement to give women more bang for their pelvic floor fitness buck!
Pfilates is Pelvic Floor Pilates and was developed by urogynecologist Dr. Bruce Crawford (that's him in the photo along with yours truly doing one of the movements called The Hover). He was tired of telling women to go home and do their kegels, only to see them in his operating room not long after.
Kegels, when performed correctly, are effective, but are often done seated or standing which doesn’t help much when the problems we encounter, such as leaking, usually happen during movement.
This week I am sharing some thoughts from a past client, so that you might see how pelvic health programs can really help empower women.
I met Rebekah about two years ago through a Core Restoration consultation. She is now pregnant with her second child and I recently held a Prepare To Push workshop for her and a few of her pregnant friends.
As she has the perspective of both preparation and recovery, I thought her view would be very helpful.
I was intrigued. I wanted to learn more. I heard you say the word ‘pelvic floor’ and I remember saying to myself, “What the heck is she talking about?” I don't think I really knew what my pelvic floor was.
We did the assessment when my son was two and, thankfully, I didn't...
Incontinence in CrossFit is a thing....a BIG thing and while there are things I really like about CrossFit, the acceptance of leaking urine as 'normal' or 'part of being the fittest woman on the planet' just doesn't sit well with me.
I first heard about CrossFit over 10 years ago when a previous co-worker started posting the workouts on his Facebook page. CrossFit involves high intensity strength and conditioning workouts called WOD’s – workout of the day – which could include anything from burpees to clean and jerks to pull ups to double unders.
Back then, CrossFit was gaining quite a following, mainly amongst men but in the last 5 years it has become increasingly popular amongst women.
About 50% of the people who come to see me for help with their abdominal wall and/or their leaking, have either been doing CrossFit for awhile or have just started it.
Simply said, I just don’t get it. This post aims to...
The benefits of midwives are numerous, from a reduction in episiotomies and use of interventions to a reduction in epidurals. The care they provide truly supports the normal process of birth.
I believe midwives play a huge role in protecting the perineum which in my world is huge in terms of preventing some aspects of pelvic floor dysfunction. They encourage birth positions that facilitate birth rather than hinder it and they are in no hurry... they let the woman birth.
I chose a midwife for the birth of my two children and was so happy that I did!
Part of my reason for choosing a midwife was as a result of watching my sister-in-law through her pregnancy and birth. Watching the birth of my niece I saw firsthand the amazing care that the midwifery team provided. I wanted that for myself.
The prenatal care was great and I got to know both of the midwives...
In my last post about midwives I spoke of a birth team. A doula is an integral part of that birth team both prenatally, during your birth and as you transition to motherhood.
I did not have a doula at my births (close to 10 years ago now!) because I didn’t know about them, but I certainly know about them now – in my business I work closely with doulas and have even trained as a doula myself!
In honour of World Doula Week here are a few things about doulas that I think you should know along with a few sites I think you should check out.
Here are some great links...
Cesarean births can be planned, which gives Mom time to prepare in advance for the procedure, and for the recovery. But in many cases C-sections happen unexpectedly, leaving many women feeling surprised and overwhelmed.
To make matters worse, little – if any – information is provided to new moms on how to recover properly.
C-section surgery involves cutting through the skin and underlying fat cells, the fascia (connective tissue) and the peritoneum (the lining of the abdominal cavity).
The abdominal muscles are spread apart and the bladder is then moved out of the way so an incision can be made in the uterus to remove the baby.
Once the baby is out, the incision in the uterus is sewn up, the bladder put back in place, the fascia is sutured and then, of course, the skin is stitched.
That is a whole lot of layers of incisions and then remaining scar tissue!
If you are recovering from a cesarean birth or know you will be having one,...
A baby shower is a tradition in many countries, including here in Canada. The exact details of the custom differs culturally, and I have even observed differences native to certain regions of Canada, but the general motivation is the same: to shower a new mother with gifts (usually onesies, baby wash cloths and often advice) before or shortly after the birth of her child.
Baby showers are an exciting opportunity to get together with family and friends and celebrate new life, but sometimes choosing the right gift can be a challenge for guests.
Whether you are the “woman of the hour” or a friend/family member needing the perfect gift, we rounded up our top selections for some unique, practical and supportive gifts for Mom.
If this is your shower, forward this blog link to your friends and family! If you are attending a shower, you can conveniently order (most of) these products online – just be sure to allow time for delivery.
A common recommendation for expecting mothers is to create a birth plan: a document that gives your caregivers (midwife, doctor, doula, partner) an outline of your choices, desires and ‘no thank you’s’ while in labour. This is designed so as not to take your attention away from the amazing process you are going through.
While it is great to have thought about things like birth positions, caregivers to be present, and heat therapy ahead of time, it is important to have a fluid list and an open mind. This will help to prevent fear and feelings of lack of control from taking over the mind and interfering with the unfolding of birth.
I prefer to suggest that expectant parents think of their birth document as a guide, rather than a plan, because birth is just not something that always goes as planned.
I also suggest that they consider recovery as well. Most people focus solely on the birth, but there are a lot of things...